Face to Face versus Facebook

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By Melissa Ford

Coach - Personal & Business

Which do you prefer - face to face or Facebook? We might fool ourselves, but social media connects us only superficially to others. What provides real, meaningful connection is our live, in-person interactions. Are you missing deep connection with others in your life? Is life moving so darn fast that you don’t have time to think? If so, you might just need a little CIRCLE time in your life! 

What is Circle?

For the past two years, River Forester, Susan Lucci has been facilitating a unique form of dialogue she calls Centering Circles. Sue’s goal is to engage people in a safe space where they have time to slow down, reflect on what matters, and dig into the big questions of life. It’s not like a support group (but it is a supportive atmosphere). It’s not a book group (but she does share inspiring readings). It’s not therapy (but many say it is therapeutic). According to Sue, of the 100 or so folks who have circled with her,  many report how much they enjoy developing deeper bonds with others, becoming more aware, feeling empowered to act, and the benefits of taking time to pause, as a result of making time for Circle.

Here are some current Circles that might appeal to you:

Circles for Adults:

  • Developing a Meditation/Mindfulness Practice
  • Iron Butterflies: Women Transforming Themselves & Their World
  • Awakening Activism

Circles for Middleschoolers:

Topics include:

  • Making Transitions
  • Friendship Tips & Tricks
  • Activating their Voices
  • Practicing Kindness
  • Dealing with Worries
  • Coping with their Changing Bodies
  • Finding Comfort Zones

Many girls state that there is nowhere else in their lives that they can share at this level. As Lucci points out, “Their commitment says it all: rarely does one of my sixth graders miss a Circle (and these are busy, talented girls who have been circling together for two years now). Here are a few comments from them, when I asked them to comment on the best thing about Circle”: 

* I love it because I forget about almost everything that happened that day.

* Getting to say what you wanted to say all week.

* It is a place where I meditate and come to relax!

* Not being afraid to talk, feeling safe.

* Here I know that I can share anything I want!

* It helped a lot when we wrote about ourselves because sometimes I forget who I am.

* I know this is a safe place to tell people who I really am. I hope this circle will help me learn to be a great person.

Finally, here’s input from parent, Karen West, who has two daughters in Circle: “My oldest daughter has been participating since Susan began this, and it has been WONDERFUL for her.  I'm THRILLED because I think this is great for our girls. I just really love that my girls have a nice, safe place to talk.”

So, if you're craving more face time, let your next click be on www.2big4words.org, where you can explore Circle possibilities for yourself or your child. Recent studies show that those of us who spend more time in meaningful conversations are actually happier!

Come to Circle and put a smile on your face! 

Email: melissa@empoweredcoachingsolutions.com

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Maureen McCann  

Posted: April 23rd, 2012 9:31 AM

Imagine a place that you just can't wait to get to; where you are greeted by new and old friends with tight loving hugs and warm smiles; after a few giggles and belly laughs, you settle in and almost feel like you are in a warm bath as you hear one of Sue's meditations; you feel grounded like you are in the best place for you to be in at that moment; you talk about what is in your heart, you are supported by a circle of amazing people and fed inspiring & stimulating info on life changing topics!

Dave Coulter  

Posted: April 22nd, 2012 10:38 AM

I'm all for less Facebook time in this world!

Kathryn Werner  

Posted: April 20th, 2012 1:09 PM

Circle is simply a gift! A place to connect, feel peace and reflect. Susan is a joyful guide into very thought and spirit provoking places... I am filled with gratitude for having found this circle of women.

Amy Phillippe Kosterman from River Forest, Illinois  

Posted: April 20th, 2012 5:14 AM

Both of my daughters participate with Susan and her Circles, and they LOVE it. It's a safe place for them, and it has eased the transition for my oldest daughter from elementary to middle school, while building healthy relationships with her peers. I hope Susan continues these groups, because they truly offer the tools for my girls to find peace amidst the crazy, busy world in which we live.

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