Run, Don't Walk . . . Away From Your Family

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By Melissa Ford

Coach - Personal & Business

The other weekend, my 20-year-old daughter was home from college. As a special treat, we opted to spend a day in the city, starting first with breakfast at Manny’s. Fully sated, we exited the restaurant making our way towards the parking lot at the back of the building when a woman came barreling around the corner, wide eyed and frantic -  practically running us over. 

She pulled up short, gulping great lungfuls of air. “Oh, I’m so sorry. Are you both ok?” she apologized between gasps. “I just had to get away from my family. My kids and husband are driving me crazy!” she laughed. Just at that moment, two middle-school-age girls sprinted around the building yelling, “Hey, wait for us, Mom!” 

My daughter and I stared at the comical scene and burst into laughter. The run-away mom smiled, shrugging her shoulders, “Well, at least I tried. Better luck next time.” Continuing to smile, she linked arms with her daughters and walked towards the restaurant. 

I confess. There were many times when I felt like running away, but speed was not my forte; instead, I resorted to deal-making. 

I remember one memorable weekend when my husband agreed to take the kids and the dog to visit his parents. I was left with the fish, parakeets, guinea pigs and a couple of thirsty plants, but it didn’t matter. I was giddy!  No girls’ night out or shopping extravaganzas for this lucky lady. I was compelled to clean. . . 

Three hours later, the house was spotless. Walking from room to room, I surveyed the order and cleanliness and quiet. Words could not describe my delight at being home alone.  

Remember: Take time out from your family! You’ll feel rejuvenated and your family will love you even more upon your return (or theirs). 

Have you ever given yourself this treat? Do you schedule time away from your family for a day or weekend? Share some of your creative ways of taking time for yourself!


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Kila Bell-Bey from Oak Park  

Posted: April 25th, 2011 11:57 AM

I appreciate having "me" time away from my husband and children. I love having the house to myself so in those moments my husband will take the kids to my mom's or his mom's and I might watch a marathon of my favorite tv show. I also might clean while enjoying the silence of being alone (music is always in the background as I go through each room). A relaxing bath with scented candles and music is also a nice way to unwind when it's just me...


Posted: April 22nd, 2011 10:19 AM

I relate! My daughter & I are both cracking up at this one!!

Susan Lucci from River Forest  

Posted: April 20th, 2011 2:55 PM

Luckily a wise woman gave me this tip years back: administer self care liberally, in the closet if need be! (which at the time meant massages, telling no one). I now have a full page of self care tips and call them necessities! My favorite is a 24 hour escape all alone to somewhere at least an hour from home that has accessibility to Nature. I take my journal, a good book (or 3), comfy clothes a bottle of red wine and a good movie. I sleep, eat, read, do whatever I want to do for 24 hours! AH!

Melissa from  

Posted: April 20th, 2011 1:59 PM

Congratulations! Imagine feeling rested before, during and after. . . have a wonderful get-away.

localop_sarah from Oak Park  

Posted: April 20th, 2011 1:38 PM

I just won a retreat for 4. I emailed three of my mom gal pals that also need the moment away. I feel rested just thinking about it.

Melissa from  

Posted: April 19th, 2011 4:04 PM

jill, I'm in on that Bali break, but if that doesn't work - how about a road trip?

Jill Salzman  

Posted: April 19th, 2011 3:11 PM

Love this! My mom actually tried to change her name once from "Mom" to something else...never worked. With two tiny kiddos, I definitely don't take enough time for myself, away from the family. I'm off to book a flight to Bali RIGHT NOW.

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