Nice column, Ken, on one of your favorite topics [A Valentine for those who dream, Ken Trainor, Viewpoints, Feb. 8]. I saw La La Land this past weekend with my love, Maureen. It made for quite a dinner discussion at Maya del Sol. Wow, did those two characters resolve a lot about life in only six years! Of course, it was a movie.
There were those conflicting strands of romantic energy in each: the romantic attachment to the dream of the work — true jazz and beautiful acting — and the romantic lure of the other’s glow. They resolved the conflicts — partly and painfully — by helping each other follow the former, while releasing one another from the relationship itself.
On Valentine’s Day, we emphasize the romantic attachment to the lover, but romance does entice us in many ways over time.