Do you have a mental list of everything you’ve done wrong as a parent? Lost your temper and spanked your child? Jumped to the wrong conclusions? Too tired to really care? Inadvertently and naively put your child’s safety in question?
Join the crowd! All of us are imperfect, but the problem doesn’t lie in our flaws – but rather in how we treat ourselves after we acknowledge our blunders. Do we castigate, condemn, or attack ourselves? Carry around guilt, blame, and shame?
The next time you come face-to-face with one of your screw-ups, take a step back and try something new – really be kind to yourself. Let go of the guilt, blame, embarrassment, or whatever uncomfortable emotion you’re experiencing. Then, create a written list of everything you did that worked. Pay attention to even the little things you did that you liked. After you’ve completed your list, write down one thing that you learned from this situation that will help you be more effective in your parenting.
You’ll be able to move on with greater ease, acknowledge those things you did well, and be really clear about what you learned and want to change.