I had a long talk with my son last night

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By Melissa Ford

Coach - Personal & Business

I remember wanting to connect with my children - to have those long, heart-to-heart talks, to really get to know them as people. This desire grew stronger as they advanced towards their teen years then off to college. There were times when I had those talks. They'd come out of nowhere and I'd be really present, listening with love and acceptance, not trying to fix or change or force my viewpoint. And, it was always wonderful and a little frightening, realizing they were independent thinking people, moving away. Afterwards, I would feel so grateful, so in love - only remembering the moment, never remembering the words.  

Do you ever feel this way? The depth of the moment, yet unable to recall the conversation?
Enjoy this poem by Judith Morley; it captures this parental experience perfectly!

 

I had a long talk wtih my son last night.
I will never forget it.

I have always known - 

If only I could hear his heart
If only I could understand his understanding
If only I could crack that door stuck shut between us. 

And I did!

I had a long talk with my son last night;
I will never forget it.

We sat in the kitchen, of course,
and I trembled with both joy and fright
at the intensity of the conversation.

He was awash with cares
and deep deep pain
burned through his face.

I answered with love
and some confusion
and not without a bit of dread.

But it was good!

I had a long talk with my son last night;
I will never forget it.

Until four a.m.
We sat and opened up our hearts and wept each other's tears -
till even the chairs grew weary.

I knew I would never forget it.
Still, when we kissed goodnight
I rushed to take the journal
where I keep my thoughts and feelings
should my memory ever fail me
and I recorded it.

And now it is next week -

And I remember sitting there
And I remember how he looked
And I remember how I felt

But I cannot quite recall
just what we said . . .  

And so
with gratitude that I recorded it,
I rushed to read the journal
where I keep my thoughts and feelings
should my memory ever fail me
and I open up the page
and this is what is says:

I had a long talk with my son last night
I will never forget it! 

 

 

 

Contact:
Email: melissa@empoweredcoachingsolutions.com

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