By Melissa Ford
Urie Bronfenbrenner, co-founder of the national Head Start program and pre-eminent scholar in developmental psychology and child-rearing said it best, “Every child needs someone who is crazy about them.” When I first heard this quote, I was stunned because it captured my own powerful discovery about parenting: “Loving my child is easy, but being ‘crazy about him/her’ requires commitment, intention, energy. When I parent from this attitudinal place - my parent/child relationship takes on a richness and depth above and beyond what I experience when I’m merely loving my child.
Being crazy about your child is:
- Feeling extreme enthusiasm towards your son or daughter
- Believing in your kid and his/her abilities
- Celebrating your child’s efforts and good intentions
- Wanting the best for him/her
- Cheering your child on during good and bad times
- Dreaming big for your child and encouraging him/her to do the same
- Listening and keeping your mouth shut
- Letting your child be your teacher
- Asking his/her opinion
- Appreciating the little things
- Reminding your child how much better your life is because s/he is in it
It’s a day-to-day intention - this craziness - but once you go there, practicing and sustaining this internal stance - you’ll notice how parenting is no longer just parenting - it’s an honor and sheer pleasure.
Being crazy about your child - what positive meaning does this hold for you? Together, let’s grow this list.